Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

Imagine if people pursued marriage the way Olympians pursued their Olympic dreams.  There would be NO obstacle a couple couldn’t overcome.  There would be no divorce.

Olympians do not allow challenges to stop them from reaching their dreams.  Is your marriage a dream or do you treat it like something “you’ll try”?  When you got married did you say to yourself “oh well, if it doesn’t work we can always get a divorce.”  Do you think Olympians say, “oh well if I don’t make this jump or I don’t win this event I’ll just throw in the towel?”  If they did, they would never have a shot at getting the gold.

Marriage and relationships in general have become dispensable.  They get tossed aside and thrown out when they aren’t good any more.  This begs the question: What makes them “not good any more?”  It isn’t an issue of fault or placing blame.  It’s an issue of how the marriage or the relationship is perceived to begin with.

Treat your partner like they are the gold medal.  Work for it.  Work for your partner.

I’m writing this at 4:30 in the morning.  I woke up thinking about it.  For many reasons.  The main reason is because I believe in the sanctity of marriage.  Not because it is in the bible or part of numerous religions.  I believe in it because I believe in commitment.  I believe the greatest fulfillment in life is being committed…being committed to your relationships; to people…being a committed daughter, son, parent, friend, business associate.  Look at any area of life-personal, spiritual, financial, social.  Look at the people who have success in these areas and consider the various definitions of success.  All of the top business success speakers and personal development speakers agree unequivocally that commitment is a crucial component of success in any area of life.

The translation of “I’ll try” is “I’m not committed.”  The word “try” needs to be removed from all human language and thought.  And a few other words, come to think of it.  Don’t “try” to make your relationships work.  Don’t “try” to make your marriage work. I suspect Olympic athletes have banned the word from their vocabulary.   And I can’t image Nike would ever use the word “try” in their slogans. You want your relationships to be happy and fulfilling then commit to them.  Just do it.

JUST DO IT!